In life you might have to face certain situations and go through certain circumstances which you might never expect. However, when such a thing happens, you should be the first one to support them as friend. Most of us find it hard to deal with friends who go through a rough time, because most of us get confused and would not know what to say and what not to say. Here are few things which you can do to support a friend who is going through a rough time.
Listen to them
Nothing can be better if you have a friend who would support you and listen to what you have to say. If you are not aware of the matter, you can ask them about the matter. Listen to them with all your heart if they tell you and if they do not wish to talk, just be with them. Your mere presence will make them feel good enough to tell you everything later when he or she gets stable. Do not force them if they refuse to tell you anything. Good communication skills are extremely important in such situations.
When they tell you what happened, don’t just bombard them with questions and make them feel worse. You should be calm as much as you can and offer them help when needed. If you are confused and not sure about what to say, just be calm and try to offer physical help to comfort and console them. Hug them or gently rub on their shoulders and head to make them feel better. Think before you speak; if not you might have to regret later. Your friend might talk about the same traumatic incident or ask you the same question which might sound irritating, but you need to be patient and try to think of ways to make them feel better.
Help them to make decisions
When a person goes through a hard time, they wouldn’t know what to do and what not to do. It would be extremely hard for them to make judgements or any kinds of decisions. However, being a good friend, it is your responsibility to help them make decisions. You can perhaps cook something for them or give them a sympathy flower in Singapore and tell them let’s do this or let’s face it together.
Talk to your friend and reach a final decision and do it. You should understand that your friend is emotionally disturbed, so do not try to stop them from doing what they want. If your friend wants to cry, you should let them cry for some time until they feel better.